Comments on: How To Escape An Undesirable Travel Mate http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/ Online travel magazine dedicated to exploring travel in the 21st century. Offering travel news, compelling interviews, online travel tools, and more. Sat, 20 Mar 2010 03:31:24 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Hayley http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-95850 Hayley Sat, 12 Dec 2009 01:05:44 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-95850 All of this sounds very passive-aggressive. There is no excuse to go sneaking off in the middle of the night , or spin a web of lies, unless you truly fear for your safety. It's also a mean prank unless someone has truly been a j*ck*ss and knows it's probably coming. The best thing to do when someone is getting on your nerves is to grow a pair and tell them, flat-out (not in front of anyone). Tell them exactly what they are doing that is bothering you, and exactly how long they have to shape up before you will continue to enjoy your trip, alone. Then follow-through. It sounds like an ultimatum, but it is an opportunity for both. If you are so bothered by something that your partner is doing that it makes you want to steal away in the night, you should probably mention it. Sooner rather than later. Chances are, they will learn that they have to respect you, and you might make a friend who doesn't annoy you so much anymore. If that fails or you truly are dealing with a 'latent sociopath' (I love that!), then the other stuff might be fun. All of this sounds very passive-aggressive. There is no excuse to go sneaking off in the middle of the night , or spin a web of lies, unless you truly fear for your safety. It’s also a mean prank unless someone has truly been a j*ck*ss and knows it’s probably coming.

The best thing to do when someone is getting on your nerves is to grow a pair and tell them, flat-out (not in front of anyone). Tell them exactly what they are doing that is bothering you, and exactly how long they have to shape up before you will continue to enjoy your trip, alone. Then follow-through.

It sounds like an ultimatum, but it is an opportunity for both. If you are so bothered by something that your partner is doing that it makes you want to steal away in the night, you should probably mention it. Sooner rather than later.

Chances are, they will learn that they have to respect you, and you might make a friend who doesn’t annoy you so much anymore.

If that fails or you truly are dealing with a ‘latent sociopath’ (I love that!), then the other stuff might be fun.

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]]> By: Brian from nodebtworldtravel.com http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-89148 Brian from nodebtworldtravel.com Mon, 06 Apr 2009 03:26:02 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-89148 I never had to ditch a travel partner, but there are plenty of reasons for traveling alone in the first place. Unless someone is pulling a knife, blunt object or firearm, I think being straight up with them will prevent you from looking over your shoulder the rest of your trip. I never had to ditch a travel partner, but there are plenty of reasons for traveling alone in the first place. Unless someone is pulling a knife, blunt object or firearm, I think being straight up with them will prevent you from looking over your shoulder the rest of your trip.

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]]> By: Ian MacKenzie http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-68953 Ian MacKenzie Sun, 25 May 2008 16:31:56 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-68953 The ninja move is a good one. Just make sure your friend isn't also reading BNT and gets wind of your attempt... The ninja move is a good one. Just make sure your friend isn’t also reading BNT and gets wind of your attempt…

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]]> By: J http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-68879 J Sun, 25 May 2008 07:37:58 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-68879 I am going for the NINJA, problem being ive been travelling for 2 months with the same person from the UK, we booked our tickets together,,, But i cant take anymore of this, i need to run, So i am perpared to lose my ticket money and run staying in Asia J I am going for the NINJA, problem being ive been travelling for 2 months with the same person from the UK, we booked our tickets together,,, But i cant take anymore of this, i need to run, So i am perpared to lose my ticket money and run staying in Asia

J

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]]> By: Roman http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-2625 Roman Sun, 06 May 2007 18:59:25 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-2625 The tactic you described as THE NINJA really works for me :) you can really get rid of a travel mate who is too lame to travel with. The tactic you described as THE NINJA really works for me :) you can really get rid of a travel mate who is too lame to travel with.

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]]> By: The TravMonkey http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-680 The TravMonkey Sun, 18 Mar 2007 18:12:17 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-680 Trans Siberian? Cool...I had a look at getting the Beijing that way...but bottled it. I think I may be returning to China at some point. It's funny how much more confidence you obtain after travelling for a while. I found China pretty amazing, really looking forward to South America where I should be heading in about 6 months time. Trans Siberian? Cool…I had a look at getting the Beijing that way…but bottled it. I think I may be returning to China at some point. It’s funny how much more confidence you obtain after travelling for a while.

I found China pretty amazing, really looking forward to South America where I should be heading in about 6 months time.

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]]> By: Steve http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-679 Steve Sun, 18 Mar 2007 17:45:07 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-679 Ah hello hello! Small world this intra-manet malarkey, isn't it? :D Trust you had a great time on your travels. Your article really made me chuckle - gonna have to check out your own blog... I ^always^ have travel plans :p Looking to take off on the Trans-Siberian, but probably not until October now... just in time for the -40 degrees C weather :| Happy travels! Ah hello hello! Small world this intra-manet malarkey, isn’t it? :D Trust you had a great time on your travels. Your article really made me chuckle – gonna have to check out your own blog…

I ^always^ have travel plans :p Looking to take off on the Trans-Siberian, but probably not until October now… just in time for the -40 degrees C weather :|

Happy travels!

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]]> By: The TravMonkey http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-671 The TravMonkey Sun, 18 Mar 2007 03:32:27 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-671 Hey Steve, I emailed you ages ago before I started my trip, about China. Loved reading your travel blog very inspiring. Any new travel plans in the pipeline? I think it would be even worse if it wasn't a travel mate that you met on the road, but one you had chosen from home.....for example you couldn't really pull off the ninja.... well you could but it'd be pretty harsh! Hey Steve, I emailed you ages ago before I started my trip, about China. Loved reading your travel blog very inspiring. Any new travel plans in the pipeline?

I think it would be even worse if it wasn’t a travel mate that you met on the road, but one you had chosen from home…..for example you couldn’t really pull off the ninja…. well you could but it’d be pretty harsh!

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]]> By: boris http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-670 boris Sat, 17 Mar 2007 23:22:33 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-670 meeting annoying travel mates is just part of the whole deal, i reckon. plus they make for great travel stories later on... a good way of getting rid of an annoying travel buddy is to go for a beer with him/her and then tell him/her all the ridiculous stories of former annoying travel mates. just show them a mirror and a lot of them will suddenly not like you anymore that much and will take the first opportunity you give them to make their getaway. it's worked a few times before and if not, then i usually go for the ninja. meeting annoying travel mates is just part of the whole deal, i reckon. plus they make for great travel stories later on…

a good way of getting rid of an annoying travel buddy is to go for a beer with him/her and then tell him/her all the ridiculous stories of former annoying travel mates.

just show them a mirror and a lot of them will suddenly not like you anymore that much and will take the first opportunity you give them to make their getaway.

it’s worked a few times before and if not, then i usually go for the ninja.

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]]> By: ourman http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/comment-page-1/#comment-669 ourman Sat, 17 Mar 2007 21:26:27 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2007/03/16/how-to-escape-an-undesirable-travel-mate/#comment-669 Never trust a backpacker with a bandana - it should be the first rule of traveling. Likewise people who wear those ridiculous utility belts designed only to make Americans appear even larger around the waist to incredulous local people. Never trust a backpacker with a bandana – it should be the first rule of traveling.

Likewise people who wear those ridiculous utility belts designed only to make Americans appear even larger around the waist to incredulous local people.

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