5 Trips To Do Before You Say ‘I Do’

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Marriage is a joyful celebration…if you’ve already enjoyed these 5 trips while still single.

Photos by MickcPeck and casey yancey

A long time ago I read an article called “5 Guys To Do Before You Say I Do.”

It was sort of like those 1000 Places to See Before You Die books, only instead of “ride a hot air balloon over the Napa Valley” it was “have sex with the bass player from an indie rock band,” and instead of death, you had, well, marriage.

Until I read that article, at the tender age of 14, it had never occurred to me to make a pre-marital bucket list - marriage wasn’t something I thought of as an end point, exactly.

But thankfully Cosmo opened my eyes, and I realized that there were probably lots of crucial life experiences - besides The Younger Man, The Older Man, The Arm Candy, The Artist, and The Bad Boy - to tick off the master list before getting hitched.

Here, without further ado, are 5 trips to do before you say ‘I do’.

The Party Island

Full-moon parties on Thailand’s infamous Ko Pha Ngan. Cocaine and cutting-edge dance music in the clubs of Ibiza. Getting “screeched in” on George Street in St. Johns, Newfoundland.

The universe knows you’ll have more fun on that party island if you’re single.

Whatever your partying preference, somewhere there is an island seemingly custom-made for you to let loose.

Why are all the best parties found on islands? Only the universe knows. The universe also knows that you’ll have more fun on that custom-made party island if you’re single.

The Spring Break

In days of yore, our ancestors designed rites and trials to mark the passage of young men into adulthood. Today, we have our own rite of passage: Spring Break. And in this post-feminist world, girls get to play, too.

So go ahead. Enter that beer-funneling contest. Flag down that Girls Gone Wild cameraman. Show the staff at Senor Frog’s just exactly what you’re made of.

When you look back in your old age, won’t you regret not drinking that last daiquiri?

The Backpacker Bus

It’s like Spring Break, but on a bus. Do you really want to be that guy who brought his wife Contiki-ing? ‘Nuff said.

The Girlfriend Getaway / Man-cation

We all know that once you put that ball and chain around your finger, longstanding friendships go out the window. It’s the way of the world, right?

Be sure you make time for one last single-sex travel bash before resigning yourself to a lifetime of hotel check-ins as “Mr” and “Mrs”.

There’s a whole industry designed for the ladies, here - spa packages, shopping getaways, and the like - but the demand for mancations is growing fast, too. Go ice-fishing for a weekend, or find some strippers in Vegas. Revel in gender stereotypes while you still can.

(Note: It’s bad form to roll the final friends fling in with the bachelor/bachelorette party. Don’t try to kill two birds with one stone.)

The Solo Quest

The solo quest is the most important trip of all. After all, you can’t find your other half until you’ve found yourself.

A spiritual element is key here, as is setting a specific goal. Seek out a monastery and apprentice yourself to one of the enlightened souls within, preferably somewhere in Asia.

Walk a famous pilgrimage route - bonus points if you shuffle the whole way on your knees.

Plan a long-distance overland trek taking in many physical and political obstacles - Cairo to Cape Town is a good one, if you have the means. Use an odd form of transport: a kayak, or a unicycle.

Pour your heart and soul into the trip, and keep detailed notes. Even if you don’t find yourself - or your mate - en route, you’re likely to find yourself a book deal.

What are your ideas for trips before typing the knot? Share you thoughts in the comments!


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Eva Holland

Eva Holland is co-editor of Matador Pulse and a regular contributor to the Matador Network. She's also a contributing editor at World Hum. Eva recently quit her day job and gave notice on her apartment, and is currently bouncing around Eastern Ontario, Quebec and upstate New York.

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  • Daniel Harbecke replied on May 9, 2008

    “Walk a famous pilgrimage route – bonus points if you shuffle the whole way on your knees.”

    Best preparation for marriage I ever heard of… ;)

    (Just kidding, honey. Please don’t kill me. Love, remember? I’ll buy you the earrings, just don’t kill me. Looooove…)

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  • Jacob replied on May 9, 2008

    I guess my marriage is doomed.

    My wife used to get Cosmo, and I enjoyed–as a male–reading up on what it took to please a man these days (they always had at least 5 tips, if not 50). Likewise, as a married man, I enjoy reading about the prerequisites for marriage; can’t argue with the last one:

    “…After all, you can’t find your other half until you’ve found yourself.”

    Well said!

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  • Jacob replied on May 9, 2008

    On a side note: This sounds incredibly sarcastic. Is it supposed to be?

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  • Eva replied on May 9, 2008

    Hey Jacob - I enjoy reading the “how to pull her trigger” articles in Maxim, too! Both the Cosmos and Maxims of the world are comic geniuses, whether they know it or not…

    “This sounds incredibly sarcastic. Is it supposed to be?”

    Yup. :D I’m not a big fan of the “life-as-checklist-to-be-completed” approach.

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  • Tim Patterson replied on May 9, 2008

    Awesome article Eva, funny and - dare I say - wise? I edited the piece last week, but reading through it again this morning I had laugh out loud moments all over again. Dig the sarcasm.

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  • Jenn B. replied on May 9, 2008

    Hilarious! Because life (and subsequently, all fun travel) does end at marriage, of course.

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  • Eva replied on May 10, 2008

    Jenn. B: Exactly! It’s tragic, isn’t it?

    Thanks, Tim. :D

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  • Olivia Giovetti replied on May 13, 2008

    “Show the staff at Senor Frog’s just exactly what you’re made of.”

    Or, if you’re on Arrested Development, Senor Tadpole’s.

    Oh, Kitty…

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  • Louise Brown replied on May 14, 2008

    Hey Eva, cool, you’re from Ottawa too! Nice to meet you, are you a couchsurfer? You should come out to the meetings sometime, every Wednesday!

    Louise Brown
    TravelPod Community Manager

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  • Bethany Shaffer replied on December 27, 2008

    Very true. Though, I'd argue that the Solo Quest could still take place after the marriage-unlike the others it is designed for introspection, not "extracurricular" activities.
    Also, a tip for already married folks-NO MYKONOS!

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