Moving On: 5 Trips To Heal A Broken Heart

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Feature photo by Face it. Photo above by Franco Folini.

Travel can be a key component in healing a broken heart.

When I told my mom I’d been dumped she laughed at me. I wasn’t surprised by her callousness as I am more often the dumper than the dumpee and it seemed about time that karma bit back.

Friends proved to be more sensitive to my plight. I found that most of them assured me they wouldn’t dump me if I were their girlfriend- the only exception being the dude who actually did dump me when I was his girlfriend.

Moving on after a break-up is difficult but necessary. The healing powers of travel often prove to be effective and helpful.

I was left with the crucial phase of post-break-up recovery: packing up my emotional baggage and getting out of town.

Moving on after a break-up is difficult but necessary. The healing powers of travel often prove to be effective and helpful.

Here are some tried and true combinations I suggest to turn an owner of a broken heart into a roamer with a broken heart, which is much better.

Photo by ChristineRenee.net.

Island+Sister

Whether deserter or desertee, an island is a perfect place to try out a little self-imposed exile and get away in order to pull yourself together with the help of a loving sibling.

Though John Donne assured us that no man is an island, you sure feel like one after being cast away. Why not just embrace your island solitude with one of the people who knows you the best (and is obligated to love you, no matter how much of a bummer you are to be around).

Cabin+BFF

A cabin is a land-locked island perfect for retreating and nursing wounds. The peace and quiet of nature, as well as its vastness, is a perfect environment to reflect and put things into perspective.

Bring the best friend along so she can remind you of all the hard times you’ve been through and survived. This time is no different. Go climb a mountain or something.

After that roast marshmallows or engage in some other campy thing and you’ll be feeling better before you know it.

Photo by cameronparkins.

Amsterdam+ESP Buddy

If you want to forget your troubles, as well as what happened a few minutes ago, get yourself to Amsterdam as soon as possible.

Bring along your “ESP” amie, the one who knows what you’re thinking just by looking at you and laughs at all the same things. You’ll quickly find life is not that bad after all and you might as well enjoy it.

Laughter as therapy usually works wonders, and Amsterdam is the perfect place to rediscover your sense of humour.

Picnic+Posse

Unfortunately, break-ups rarely coincide with a boost in budget. If you’re broke and bummed, you still have options.

Think minimum price for maximum fun and huddle up as many pals as possible- pack some food and adult beverages, and have a picnic. Doesn’t matter if it’s cold outside…be creative.

Getting out of the house and having your friends around you for support is what it’s all about. Plus, picnics make everyone happy.

Photo by -nathan.

Open Road+You

They say misery loves company, but I would argue that misery also loves being alone in their car sobbing the lyrics to Bjork’s Hyperballad as it drives down an open road.

The newly single must embrace their liberty and freedom as well as the occasional loneliness that comes with it. What better way to do that than going on a solo trip to wherever your tires or the train tracks take you?

Make sure to pack plenty of music. I find classic rock songs of heartbreak highly therapeutic, especially when I think of all the people, from the Fleetwood Mac era to modern day, who have nursed themselves back to health by listening to the same ballads.

Although a weekend getaway is unlikely to completely cure your heartbreak, it will distract you from it long enough to see that things will eventually get better.

Travel has now become an integral part of my break-up recovery ritual. This time around I’m thinking of exploring North Africa…

Any trips we missed? Share your thoughts in the comments!


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Emily Dilling

Emily Dilling has been living in Paris for three years and is very happy with her city. She earns travel money serving beer at the pub and gets smarter studying at the Sorbonne.

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  • Eva replied on November 25, 2008

    Just one rule: somehow, find the self-discipline to maintain a strict "no souvenir gift-buying for my ex" rule. Tough, but necessary to make the trip serve its purpose.

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  • erinealberty replied on November 27, 2008

    Maybe not for everyone, but my best remedy was: Foreign Country + Self. Best if you can't speak the language.

    Mine was China. Every little step required so much energy and attention that I didn't have any left to dwell on the ex. The rewards were proportional to the effort. I got my confidence back, sure. But more importantly, I was forced to step outside of myself and just be acted upon. I left for China feeling like such a failure. I wanted to chuck myself into an experience, like a rag doll in a washing machine, and just see what would happen.

    It turned out to be the best thing I ever did.

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  • erinealberty replied on November 27, 2008

    If I had to stay close to home, I'd go to an unfamiliar neighborhood with an adventurous friend and hang out with strangers in a bar.

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  • Dicó replied on November 29, 2008

    Hey, I DID find my ESP buddy in the train from Amsterdam to Brussel, but wasn´t my buddy. Saddly I had to step out in Antwerpen and was to shy to say something to her. The happiest 2h of my life. I leave dam without a broken hart - or a unbroken, for what matters - but got in Antwerpen with a shattered one.

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