Comments on: Traveling Solo: How to Tell Your Partner You Want to Travel…Alone http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/ Online travel magazine dedicated to exploring travel in the 21st century. Offering travel news, compelling interviews, online travel tools, and more. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:14:28 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Emma http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-94327 Emma Mon, 21 Sep 2009 01:00:41 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-94327 I think this is an amazing and sensitive article that covers the main problems of discussing the issue of 'wanting' to be apart without actually wanting to be apart. Me and my partner have travelled in the past and we are currently planning a big trip to S.E asia. We have enjoyed planning and scheming for ages and we are SO excited to see this part of the word together. However my partner, being far less travelled then me recently said he would like to go it alone for a portion of the trip, a point of view I totally understand and respect. We agreed that what we would do is set out in to the same destination and spend a few weeks exploring it independently. At the end of our time we would agree a place to meet and share our storied and pictures. Then we will see how both of us tackled the same place differently and the unique things we decided to do and see. Then we will take each other to the best things we saw and share that experience with each other, each of us leading each other to the things we had found and sharing our experiences. of course we have agreed on rules i.e. obviously no cheating, no red light district fun, no sharing beds with the opposite sex but as far as making friends and finding companions, I hope that we will both make amazing friends that we can introduce our partners to at the end of our solo travels! I think this is an amazing and sensitive article that covers the main problems of discussing the issue of ‘wanting’ to be apart without actually wanting to be apart. Me and my partner have travelled in the past and we are currently planning a big trip to S.E asia. We have enjoyed planning and scheming for ages and we are SO excited to see this part of the word together. However my partner, being far less travelled then me recently said he would like to go it alone for a portion of the trip, a point of view I totally understand and respect. We agreed that what we would do is set out in to the same destination and spend a few weeks exploring it independently. At the end of our time we would agree a place to meet and share our storied and pictures. Then we will see how both of us tackled the same place differently and the unique things we decided to do and see. Then we will take each other to the best things we saw and share that experience with each other, each of us leading each other to the things we had found and sharing our experiences. of course we have agreed on rules i.e. obviously no cheating, no red light district fun, no sharing beds with the opposite sex but as far as making friends and finding companions, I hope that we will both make amazing friends that we can introduce our partners to at the end of our solo travels!

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]]> By: Melí http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-91887 Melí Thu, 04 Jun 2009 20:10:18 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-91887 I wonder what happened to moondancer? Would love to hear her story! I wonder what happened to moondancer? Would love to hear her story!

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]]> By: travelator http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-91274 travelator Wed, 13 May 2009 19:37:28 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-91274 @moondancer: your relationship is over, save your boyfriend the heartache and just call it before you go. If you're traveling alone in South East Asia you are going to be exposed to a whole lot of new and exciting experiences and you will inevitably end up sharing them with someone you meet on the road. Trust me, I know this. Once you get home your relationship and life won't hold the same appeal. @moondancer: your relationship is over, save your boyfriend the heartache and just call it before you go. If you’re traveling alone in South East Asia you are going to be exposed to a whole lot of new and exciting experiences and you will inevitably end up sharing them with someone you meet on the road. Trust me, I know this. Once you get home your relationship and life won’t hold the same appeal.

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]]> By: Moondancer http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-85862 Moondancer Wed, 25 Feb 2009 11:38:36 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-85862 Next month I am leaving to go backpacking in Southeast Asia for 4 months without my boyfriend. We are now dating for 6 months. At first he was really unsure about my plans, because he was afraid that I might cheat on him or didn't want him anymore when I come back. But we have talked a lot about it and now he trust me and our relationship. We agreed to have contact as least once a week true email or phone, to keep connected and keep our love flowing. I really hope that everything will workl out fine so that I can travel and maintain this loving relationship. Next month I am leaving to go backpacking in Southeast Asia for 4 months without my boyfriend. We are now dating for 6 months. At first he was really unsure about my plans, because he was afraid that I might cheat on him or didn't want him anymore when I come back. But we have talked a lot about it and now he trust me and our relationship. We agreed to have contact as least once a week true email or phone, to keep connected and keep our love flowing. I really hope that everything will workl out fine so that I can travel and maintain this loving relationship.

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]]> By: Jeannette http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-82297 Jeannette Wed, 21 Jan 2009 05:13:57 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-82297 Me and my partner have been together for 2 years. I want to go travelling alone. He wants to travel too but is it consodered bad if I just want to go a month before him and then meet him over there. I am 100% in love with my partner and have no interest in 'cheating' and i understand that people change. I see it as something I want to do for myself. Something I have always wanted to do by myself. I want t put this as a challenge to myself. I want to know that the 'old' me is still in me! What do you guys think? Sorry if that sounded dumb! Me and my partner have been together for 2 years. I want to go travelling alone. He wants to travel too but is it consodered bad if I just want to go a month before him and then meet him over there. I am 100% in love with my partner and have no interest in 'cheating' and i understand that people change. I see it as something I want to do for myself. Something I have always wanted to do by myself. I want t put this as a challenge to myself. I want to know that the 'old' me is still in me! What do you guys think? Sorry if that sounded dumb!

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]]> By: Rebecca http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-82153 Rebecca Mon, 19 Jan 2009 20:06:45 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-82153 I think it depends on your relationship. I have an aunt and uncle who have been married for over 40 years. They took separate vacations in addition to vacationing together; they still do this. Many years ago my aunt went on a 3 week trip to Europe. My uncle was just fine. Sometimes my uncle would be gone for a month on a fishing trip; my aunt was just fine. When people get married they tend to "get rid" of their single friends and find married friends. Next to go is their own identities. Now wonder we have a high divorce rate in the U.S.A. When people enter into a committed relationship, it becomes like a marriage. Men usually have restrictions on what they can and cannot do; women may experience the same thing. Just because you are a couple does not mean you have to give up "game night" or "solo travel." I think the biggest hang up people have with solo travel is the "trust" factor. If you're questioning that aspect in your relationship, perhaps you are not ready to be in a relationship or the one you're in is not right for you. I would like to find a guy who enjoys travel as much as I do, but if that's the "one thing" we do not have in common, I'm not going to dismiss him. As long as he respects and trusts me when I travel by myself then our relationship will be just fine. If not, then he is not the guy for me. Whether or not I come back from my travels a different person depends on where I go and why I am going in the first place. I think it depends on your relationship. I have an aunt and uncle who have been married for over 40 years. They took separate vacations in addition to vacationing together; they still do this. Many years ago my aunt went on a 3 week trip to Europe. My uncle was just fine. Sometimes my uncle would be gone for a month on a fishing trip; my aunt was just fine.

When people get married they tend to "get rid" of their single friends and find married friends. Next to go is their own identities. Now wonder we have a high divorce rate in the U.S.A.

When people enter into a committed relationship, it becomes like a marriage. Men usually have restrictions on what they can and cannot do; women may experience the same thing. Just because you are a couple does not mean you have to give up "game night" or "solo travel."

I think the biggest hang up people have with solo travel is the "trust" factor. If you're questioning that aspect in your relationship, perhaps you are not ready to be in a relationship or the one you're in is not right for you. I would like to find a guy who enjoys travel as much as I do, but if that's the "one thing" we do not have in common, I'm not going to dismiss him. As long as he respects and trusts me when I travel by myself then our relationship will be just fine. If not, then he is not the guy for me.

Whether or not I come back from my travels a different person depends on where I go and why I am going in the first place.

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]]> By: Koh Phi Phi http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-81999 Koh Phi Phi Sun, 18 Jan 2009 12:15:04 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-81999 In my experience, absence doesnt make the heart go fonder unless the reationship is stainless steel strong. When you travel, you change: your priorities change, your point of views change, the way you look your life at "home" change, etc. And along that change you might discover new dreams within you that might be incompatible with your sentimental other, especially if she is not 100% into travelling and living abroad. Be careful if you're thinking of telling your sentimental other that you want to travel alone, because relationships are not meant to develop through the distance: distance and time apart are THE WORST enemies for a relationship. In my experience, absence doesnt make the heart go fonder unless the reationship is stainless steel strong. When you travel, you change: your priorities change, your point of views change, the way you look your life at "home" change, etc. And along that change you might discover new dreams within you that might be incompatible with your sentimental other, especially if she is not 100% into travelling and living abroad.

Be careful if you're thinking of telling your sentimental other that you want to travel alone, because relationships are not meant to develop through the distance: distance and time apart are THE WORST enemies for a relationship.

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]]> By: » The fine art of leaving your sweetheart behind :: Vagablogging :: Rolf Potts Vagabonding Blog http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-81565 » The fine art of leaving your sweetheart behind :: Vagablogging :: Rolf Potts Vagabonding Blog Tue, 13 Jan 2009 16:29:15 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-81565 [...] the thorny question that the Brave New Traveler blog recently tackled, providing some tips for those of you in relationships, but wanting to travel [...] [...] the thorny question that the Brave New Traveler blog recently tackled, providing some tips for those of you in relationships, but wanting to travel [...]

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]]> By: brian http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-81501 brian Mon, 12 Jan 2009 01:05:42 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-81501 This is one of the those questions you need to ask before you get married: Honey, do you like to travel? I can't see anyone being happy that their significant other is taking off for any extended period of time. I can't even see anyone being happy with them taking off for a week by themselves. Jealousy, envy, all kinds of emotions bubble to the surface. This is one of the those questions you need to ask before you get married: Honey, do you like to travel?

I can't see anyone being happy that their significant other is taking off for any extended period of time. I can't even see anyone being happy with them taking off for a week by themselves. Jealousy, envy, all kinds of emotions bubble to the surface.

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]]> By: Carnival of Blogs #12 | Nomadic Matt's Travel Site http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/2009/01/07/traveling-solo-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-want-to-travelalone/comment-page-1/#comment-81171 Carnival of Blogs #12 | Nomadic Matt's Travel Site Fri, 09 Jan 2009 17:49:34 +0000 http://www.bravenewtraveler.com/?p=724#comment-81171 [...] Travel gives you advice on how to tell your travel partner you want to travel solo and Vagabondish helps you save money so you can go travel in the first place. Plus, Matador then [...] [...] Travel gives you advice on how to tell your travel partner you want to travel solo and Vagabondish helps you save money so you can go travel in the first place. Plus, Matador then [...]

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